01Feb05f Kandahar comes out of closet (Mark & Ted)
For
a look at this practice in another culture – and for a more objective
treatment – I recommend Rocke's
Forbidden Friendships:
Homosexuality & Male Culture in Renaissance Florence (New York
& Oxford: Oxford, 1996). Unlike in Kandahar, favored
gifts in Florence were doublets and stockings.
Apropos of Afghanistan, the Sunday magazine of The New York Times had an article last summer by a Western man (British or U.S., I think) who interviewed Taliban officials and spent some time in a religious training school, seeking the reasons for their brand of Islamic fundamentalism. In the school he found he was soon propositioned by the boys, much to his intense discomfort.
-Mark
[Ted
sent the same article]
The Times of London, 12th January, 2002
From Tim Reid in Kandahar
Our correspondent sees the gay capital of South Asia throw off strictures of
the Taleban
Now that Taleban rule is over in
Mullah Omar's former southern stronghold, it is not only televisions, kites
and razors which have begun to emerge. Visible again, too, are men with
their 'ashna', or beloveds: young boys they have groomed for sex.
Kandahar's Pashtuns have been notorious for their homosexuality for centuries,
particularly their fondness for naive young boys. Before the Taleban
arrived in 1994, the streets were filled with teenagers and their sugar
daddies, flaunting their relationship. It is called the homosexual
capital of south Asia. Such is the Pashtun obsession with sodomy -
locals tell you that birds fly over the city using only one wing, the other
covering their posterior - that the rape of young boys by warlords was one of
the key factors in Mullah Omar mobilising the Taleban.
In the summer of 1994, a few months
before the Taleban took control of the city, two commanders confronted each
other over a young boy whom they both wanted to sodomise. In the ensuing
fight civilians were killed.
Omar's group freed the boy and
appeals began flooding in for Omar to help in other disputes. By
November, Omar and his Taleban were Kandahar's new rulers. Despite the
Taleban disdain for women, and the bizarre penchant of many for eyeliner, Omar
immediately suppressed homosexuality.
Men accused of sodomy faced the
punishment of having a wall toppled on to them, usually resulting in
death. In February 1998 three men sentenced to death for sodomy in
Kandahar were taken to the base of a huge mud and brick wall, which was pushed
over by tank. Two of them died, but one managed to survive.
"In the days of the Mujahidin, there were men with their 'ashna'
everywhere, at every corner, in shops, on the streets, in hotels: it was
completely open, a part of life," said Torjan, 38, one of the soldiers
loyal to Kandahar's new governor, Gul Agha Sherzai.
"But in the later Mujahidin
years, more and more soldiers would take boys by force, and keep them for as
long as they wished.
But when the Taleban came, they
were very strict about the ban.
Of course, it still happened - the
Taleban could not enter every house - but one could not see it."
But for the first time since the Taleban fled, in the past three days, one can
see the pairs returning: usually a heavily bearded man, seated next to, or
walking with, a clean-shaven, fresh faced youth. There appears to be no
shame or furtiveness about them, although when approached, they refuse to talk
to a western journalist.
"They are just emerging
again," Torjan said. "The fighters too now have the boys in
their barracks. This was brought to the attention of Gul Agha, who
ordered the boys to be expelled, but it continues. The boys live with the
fighters very openly. In a short time, and certainly within a year, it
will be like pre-Taleban: they will be everywhere."
This Pashtun tradition is even
reflected in Pashtun poetry, odes written to the beauty and complexion of an 'ashna',
but it is usually a terrible fate for the boys concerned. It is
practised at all levels of Pashtun society, but for the poorer men, having an
'ashna' can raise his status.
"When a man sees a boy he
likes - the age they like is 15 or 16 - they will approach him in the street
and start talking to him, offering him tea," said Muhammad Shah, a shop
owner. "Sometimes they go looking in the football stadium, or in
the cinema (which has yet to reopen).
"He then starts to give him
presents, hashish, or a watch, a ring, or even a motorbike. One of the
most valued presents is a fighting pigeon, which can be worth up to $400
(#277). These boys are nearly always innocent, but such is the poverty
here, they cannot refuse."
Once the boy falls into the man's
clutches - nearly always men with a wife and family - he is marked for life,
although the Kandaharis accept these relationships as part of their
culture. When driven around, 'ashna' sit in the front passenger
seat. The back seat is simply for his friends.
Even the parents of the boys know
in their hearts the nature of the relationship, but will tell people that
their son is working for the man.
They, like everyone else, will know
this is a lie. "They say birds flew with both wings with the
Taleban," Muhammad said. "But not any more."